'This trailblazing book will help you transform your perspective about positivity' Nedra Glover Tawwab, bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace
'Finally a book that explains exactly why 'positivity at all costs' backfires, and teaches us how to process our pain instead of pretending it doesn't exist.' Caroline Dooner, author of The F*uck It Diet
'The counterbalance to a world that preaches 'look on the bright side' whenever life gets tough' Elizabeth Earnshaw, relationship expert and author of I Want This To Work
Every day, we're bombarded with pressure to be positive. From 'good vibes only' and 'life is good' memes, to endless advice, to 'look on the bright side,' we're constantly told that the key to happiness is silencing negativity wherever it crops up, in ourselves and in others. Even when faced with illness, loss, breakups, and other challenges, there's little space for talking about our real feelings-and processing them so that we can feel better and move forward.
But if all this positivity is the answer, why are so many of us anxious, depressed, and burned out?
In this refreshingly honest guide, sought-after therapist Whitney Goodman shares the latest research along with everyday examples and client stories that reveal how damaging toxic positivity is to ourselves and our relationships, and presents simple ways to experience and work through difficult emotions. The result is more authenticity, connection, and growth - and ultimately, a path to showing up as you truly are.
「生活永遠不會出現讓你無法負荷的事。
放棄追求幸福吧!
世界上並不存在名為幸福的終點。
你需要被討厭的勇氣,更需要擁抱負能量的決心。
9大句毒雞湯解析 ╳ 9堂課正能量排毒 ╳ 6方法擺脫惡性循環
空前絕後的正能量使用說明書・絕對成功的毒性迴圈逃脫術
★ 隨書附贈【有毒正能量,非請勿入!】盾牌書籤 ★
為你擋下親朋好友的有毒關懷、遮蔽失控正向思考的過度樂觀
正負能量平衡,人生真的超讚der!
遇到挫折時,每10人之中會有11人被要求:往好處想。
「往好處想就對了!」
(可是:如果樂觀有那麼神,天下就太平了。)
「世上多的是過得比你更慘的人,要懂得感謝自己擁有的一切。
(然而:抱怨並不表示你不知感恩啊!)
「生活永遠不會出現讓你無法負荷的事。
(不過:人生就是不公平,難免無法獨力承擔,像極了愛情。)
生活中充斥著沒營養又暗藏毒性的金玉良言,出現負面情緒時就濫用正向思考當作武器和盾牌,這一切都是因為──我們覺得必須一直都很快樂。
但是率直的認證心理師惠特妮認為:我們應該容許自己有情緒、容許自己能失敗,並且理解該如何正確使用正向思考。唯有如此,我們才能活在現實之中,而非正向思考的虛幻泡泡裡。
這將是你最需要的一本書!如果你:
● 總是得在工作、家庭、朋友聚會、社群媒體上假裝自己很快樂
● 總是千頭萬緒、對萬物萬事都很敏感
● 總是覺得自己的需求和情感不被他人理解
● 總是想幫助更多人、激勵自己也鼓舞他人
本書結合個人經驗、科學研究、專業諮商技巧,以及各種常見的生活案例對話,能為陷入「正能量慢性中毒」的現代人指引明燈。一旦你我學會正常釋放、理性接收負能量,並且不忽視自身需求與感受,就能找回最適合自己的生活步調,擁有真正超讚的人生。
——中文簡介摘自今周刊出版《 哇!人生超讚der!(才怪)》